Sunday, August 16, 2009

I know this topic has been hashed to know end

I stumbled across this article today and could only hold my head. The part that got me was,

"One woman decided to cut her losses. As far as she knew, antagonising her husband’s mistress was not the solution especially because the other woman was older and richer than her. She wormed her way into the mistress’ favour, “what’s my own? She was ‘spending’ my husband, so why can’t I spend her money? At first, my husband was wary; afraid I was up to mischief but he soon found out I had no time for lost battles. The woman was too old to have babies for my husband and she was loaded, always jetting around the globe. At the end, she helped me expand my business and one of my children is studying abroad on her bill.”
It wasn’t easy taking a step like that but what the hell; you might as well make the best of a bad situation. If your husband is on loan, make the best of it."

I am so tired of Nigerian/All men related bullshit. Is there no hope? At all?
Can anyone vouch for her spouse and his uncompromising fidelity? Please share. I refuse to believe that there is nothing to look forward to when it comes to men.

21 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hmmmm. Don't be surprised there're no comments yet. You're probably on your own Ms Catwalq!

chayoma said...

Ms. C,
i wasn't gonna comment, but...
when it comes to men, you can NEVER truly know what they are up to.
If u decide to trust wholly, that is BLIND TRUST!
Safe to say, you should always keep your eyes on ground.

temmy tayo said...

It can be a complicated issue if people decide to turn it so. I just personally think the woman took a great gamble. So if the old woman decided to dash her husband AIDS, na so she sef go get am abi?

Maybe she was just greedy. I knwo that a lot of women out there are of the opinion of ''never trust a man'' but there are still some God fearing men out there.

Temite said...

I am tired.....lol. I really am.

Pearly-Blu said...

I think it's a hopeless situation...No one wins in the end..they all leave broken and wary...

my first time coming across here and you are rocking already...KIU!

StandTall-The Activist said...

WTF! This is bullshit.

And there is hope when it comes to men. Not all men cheat and this I point I can stand to defend. I once worked with a elderly man that was once tempted to cheat on his wife but overcame the temptation. He told this story after 30 yrs of being with the same woman.

I can vouch for Mr. Standtall 100% and this is coming from a pro-woman and a feminist. But I sure can. I know the man I am spending my life with. And should any infidelity occur, that is a licence to divorce because I do not believe in the bullshit " men are like that" or "which one can you see that will not cheat". Marriage is not by force!

Miss Definitely Maybe said...

jeez what a giant leap backwards
surely womem have to be more progressive than this
I would hate to find out that my mum sent me to uni on the back of my fathers mistress

H2O-works said...

Thank you very much Miss Definitely Maybe...I was wondering when someone was going to make a comment about the woman's actions, and I know some women are not going to agree with me on this, but it is such attitudes like this that allow this cheating habit to growth at unimaginable rates. This money worship needs to stop abeg...For the most part, from the news I hear coming outta naija, the cheating is usually as a result of one party trying to milk the others pocket...does this woman actually think she is a successful business woman??? If this is how they brand successful business women in naija, then I wud advice all you women outside naija right nw to stay wherever u r and become successful business women for ur hardwork and not ur open legs or husbands on loan....haba...gosh this woman's actions and reasoning irks me, it makes me as a man worry 4 d kind of naija women in d marriage pool...and Im sure she wud claim she loves her child to send the child abroad 4 school...puhlease, she is just grooming that child to be her next milking pot...nonsensical nonsense...hiss

Enkay said...

Really? Sheesh! That woman not only condoned her husband's actions but she also gave him license to continue!! What the...?!

There's Hope dear Ms C. Not all men cheat. I refuse to lump them all together.

And this isn't a case of burying one's head in the sand either. Don't lose heart!!

Vera Ezimora said...

Not all men cheat. But it is important to note that women cheat too. The only difference is that we're a lot smarter at covering our tracks.

It's very easy to condemn what that wife did, but put yourself in her shoes for a second. U have a husband who is not a husband. U have talked and fought all the women off him. Yet, he continues. U're not rich. U're not famous. U have children who are hoping and relying on you (because your no-good husband is probably too busy to make money).

U need to do what you need to do. Screw dignity and respect. When that child studying abroad finishes school, he/she will take care of his/her mama.

I'm not saying she made the best decision. I'm just saying I can see why a woman would stoop so low.

Just like you, anyway, I refuse to believe that all men are up to no good. There have to be some good ones lurking around.

Twist! said...

i cant! not today! what a crock load of shit!

uknaija said...

In our country these days, in love as in all else, the end justifies the means

Anonymous said...

I do not condemn this woman, maybe she is smarter than the rest of us buying into this western idea of love and fidelity that does not seem to work(see divorce rate). I think when you take away the allure of the mystery and excitement of evading getting caught, partners, all, are less reckless.

She has put on her big girl panties and has kept it moving.

I laugh that women are condemning this woman, what if she did not know and her husband shuffles in one day and declares a bastard? HIV for don get opportunity enter tay tay.

I declare she is progressive.

doll said...

sad

ibiluv said...

crazy woman..

NoLimit said...

Not all men cheat! I totally believe that!!!
And the crap women say about "a man always being a man"(my mum said it too!!!) flies over my head like crazy...
If you're not ready to live the rest of your life with ONE woman forever, you have no business entering the institution called marriage...
Women condone it hence the reason some men keep cheating on their wives...
Everybody gets tempted, it is our reaction to such temptations that matter!

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